This piece is dedicated to celebrating Mothers Day and the significant contributions of mothers; it’s important to note that the omission of fathers and caregivers is not intended to diminish their essential role in raising their children.
Over the years we have had the privilege of witnessing the extraordinary impact mothers and mother figures have on their children and, by extension, the future. Mother’s day is not only an opportunity to appreciate and honour our mothers, their role in our families, but also to acknowledge the profound role they play in shaping the adults their children become, the society in which we shall live.
Mothers are the architects of their children’s early experiences – their nurtures, teachers, and champions. These roles are not only valuable in fostering emotional and psychological development but pivotal in preparing young minds to navigate the complexities of the future. From teaching basic skills and social behaviours to instilling values and encouraging a sense of identity, mothers serve as the first influencers in their children’s lives. This nurturing provides a secure base from which children can explore the world, try new things, and ultimately, thrive.
However, fulfilling these roles comes with significant challenges. Mothers often lose themselves trying to fulfil and balance the numerous responsibilities they hold, all whilst maintaining intense focus and dedication to meet the high expectations they place on themselves and or that they perceive society demands. Time and time again they prioritise their children’s needs above their own wellbeing often forgetting that they matter too. Mothers tend to feel an array of complex emotions, knowing the importance and need to fill their own cup and replenish their resources but struggle with guilt when they put their needs or wants first, if they dare acknowledge their overwhelm, or even express a desire for even a small space in time that is just their own. Herein lies the importance of self compassion and self care.
Self compassion is about recognising and accepting our imperfections, our humanness with the kindness and understanding we would offer a friend, family member or simply another. It’s granting oneself permission to be flawed, to make mistakes, learn, and grow – just as mothers encourage their children to do.
By embracing self compassion, mothers are able to give themselves the same grace and empathy they afford to others. They can cultivate a healthier state of mind, reduce their experience of stress, and ultimately enhance their ability to nurture. Their internal wellbeing inevitability radiates outward, creating a more supportive and loving environment for them and their loved ones.
By practicing self care mothers not only replenish their emotional reserves but also model essential life skills for their children.
For Mothers: This Mother’s Day, take a moment to reflect on what self care can look like for you. Whether it’s carving out time for a hobby or interest, seeking moments of reflection, or simply allowing yourself to rest and binge watch your favourite show without guilt, prioritise your own wellbeing. Remember, nurturing yourself is an essential part of being the loving mother you aspire to be.
I know this is hard to do but perhaps this may help. A very young person with a very wise soul once said, “On mother’s day you are not allowed to be mum”. This wise soul, in the most simplest of words captured perhaps the true essence of mother’s day. It’s a day to celebrate, appreciate and acknowledge the woman behind the packed lunch boxes, the reassuring cuddles, the taxi service to and from appointments, the cheerleader come rain or shine and to encourage them nay give them permission to see themselves, their whole selves and embrace who they were, are and will become. On this day your loved ones have you covered.
For children: As you celebrate Mother’s day, think about how you can support and acknowledge your mum in a way that truly honours her. Consider asking her how she would like to spend her day or consider simply gestures like writing her a thankful note, help out with some of the daily tasks, or plan a day filled with her favourite activities. Your efforts no matter how big or small can make her feel celebrated, appreciated and seen, reminding her of the importance of self care and self compassion.
This mothers day, lets honour the incredible contributions of mothers everywhere.
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!!